Four-year old Kelly is relatively new to preschool. She wants to play with her new classmates, but is too shy and fearful about approaching and joining the group. One day during free play she watches three other girls absorbed in an elaborate tea party complete with pandas and wolves. Kelly passively observes the ongoing play…. Read more!
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Has your child ever set a goal, only to lose sight of it a few minutes, hours, or weeks later? Sometimes, life has a way of getting away from our children – with school, friends, and all their hobbies, it can be hard to stay on top of what often becomes a delicate balancing act…. Read more!
Do kids feel stress? According to a survey of 875 9-to 13-year-old boys and girls, they sure do. Check out what stresses kids out from homework to school and how they cope in the infographic below. Then look at what a whopping 75% of kids said they really want when they’re stressed out — their… Read more!
Want to teach your child the art of mindfulness? Even one minute of mindfulness can create a shift during your day. It doesn’t take a particular posture or formal training to engage your mind and body in the present moment. In fact, you can teach kids how to be mindful during ordinary daily activities. Feel free… Read more!
It happens to every child in one form or another – anxiety. As parents, we would like to shield our children from life’s anxious moments, but navigating anxiety is an essential life skill that will serve them in the years to come. In the heat of the moment, try these simple phrases to help your children… Read more!
Keep this list handy in case you’re in need of a quick stress fix. These tools can be used in one minute or less to help bring down levels of stress and anxiety. Used repeatedly, these coping skills become habit. Download the poster below: Download the FREE printable version of this infographic! Yes, send me… Read more!
Navigating childhood challenges can be stressful, and sometimes deep breathing isn’t the solution that works for your child. When your child is in need of tension relief, try one of these techniques: Try an inversion. For centuries, Yogis have understood the calming power of bringing the head below the level of the heart, otherwise known… Read more!
If you have ever seen an improv comedy show, you will notice one thing—improvisational actors rarely use the word “No” on stage. This is because “No” will stop the scene dead in its tracks, every single time. Imagine there are two actors sharing a scene. The first actor says, “Whoa, there must be a zillion stars… Read more!
Whether your child has a slow-burning fuse or explodes like a firecracker at the slightest provocation, every child can benefit from anger management skills. As parents, we lay the foundation for this skill set by governing our own emotions in the face an angry outburst. Next time you are dealing with a tantrum from a… Read more!
What we know from research is that anxiety conditions can be managed. But how do you start? Check out some super practical expert advice below related to overcoming social anxiety. Choose a method that speaks to you and try it for a week.
How many emotions can you name? According to researcher, Brené Brown, the average adult can only name three emotions: happiness, sadness, and anger. A recent study indicates there are actually only four basic emotions to begin with: happiness, sadness, anger, and fear. From this vantage, we’re getting it 75% right! However, in our experience of teaching emotional intelligence skills to children, it’s clear that the… Read more!
There are several myths about kids who are introverts: They are nervous They don’t like other people They don’t want to be social They are basically shy people If you’re an introvert, you are not anti-social, you just react to your environment differently than some kids. You are certainly not shy; in reality, there is a notable difference between… Read more!
Have you ever wondered why one kid may be more resilient than another? Check out this visual story.
Imagine, you are driving in the car. You look in the rearview mirror and see your child trying to shrink into her seat. “What’s wrong?” you ask. “I don’t want to go to the birthday party.” “But you’ve been excited all week. There will be cake and games and a bounce house. You love all… Read more!
Many of the parents in the GoZen! community have children experiencing anxiety, and they feel they don’t have a moment to take care of their own needs. If this is how you feel, try one of these 8 tips to start taking care of yourself again: 1. Change how you prioritize your list There’s a reason… Read more!
As all the kids line up to go to school, your son, Timmy, turns to you and says, “I don’t want to take the bus. My stomach hurts. Please don’t make me go.” You cringe and think, Here we go again. What should be a simple morning routine explodes into a daunting challenge. You look… Read more!
You’re seven years old and you’re busy building the greatest fort that has ever been constructed in the history of the universe! Your mom comes over and asks you to put your shoes on because it’s time to pick up your sister from dance class. Naturally, you say, “I don’t want to go right now.”… Read more!
Norma leaves her homework assignment at home. Fortunately, Pano, a powerful Dynamo comes to her aid. Techniques demonstrated in this video: Mindfulness: Norma becomes an outside observer to her thoughts and emotions Self-compassion: Norma speaks to herself with kindness and understanding Strength-based problem solving: Norma calls on her character strength of perspective to help resolve… Read more!
“I didn’t get invited to Julie’s party… I’m such a loser.” “I missed the bus… nothing ever goes my way.” “My science teacher wants to see me… I must be in trouble.” These are the thoughts of a high school student named James. You wouldn’t know it from his thoughts, but James is actually pretty… Read more!
Let’s not sugarcoat it: Life can be hard for anxious kids. Even simple, everyday tasks can seem big and scary when they come with sweaty palms, a pounding heart, and the feeling that something — anything, maybe even everything — is about to go horribly wrong. Anxious kids may feel like it’s their job to stop… Read more!
Take this quick test: You’re about to give the biggest speech of your life. One thousand pairs of eyes are glaring at you—you’re nervous. In fact, your heart is racing, your palms are clammy, your breath is shallow, and your tummy is in knots. To perform at your potential, you should: (a) Try to calm down (b)… Read more!
It’s easy to be negative. The human mind is wired to detect and dwell on negative events and circumstances. Think about cavemen who went out hunting and gathering food for their families. Those who survived did so because they were sharply attuned to possible attacks from saber-toothed tigers lurking in the bush. In modern times,… Read more!
“It’s thin,” she said with a barely perceptible crack in her voice. I was on the phone with Jilly, my best friend from high school. Her voice always cracked a bit right before she was going to cry. We’d both been anxiously awaiting responses to the college applications we’d sent out earlier that year. Before… Read more!
Imagine this: You’re a ninth-grade math teacher. You sit at your desk a few days before the school year begins, staring at the blank screen on your laptop — you’re nervous. You wanted to use this time to polish a humorous story on Albert Einstein for your new Algebra I students. Instead, you’re writing a… Read more!
What are the signs of anxiety in young children? Unfortunately anxiety is not often detected until children are school aged. Once a child is showing some serious distress – anxiety typically makes it onto the parental radar. But, what about before that time? Can anxiety be seen in toddlers and preschoolers? Can parents get their… Read more!
“Hey, Brenda, is it… is it OK if I sit here maybe?” “Sorry. Our table is full.” I was in fourth grade. I was new at school. And each day I ate lunch alone. I would often sit at the end of a long table of people — near enough to try to blend into… Read more!
What is it? Loving-kindness is a meditation focused on nurturing compassion, kindness, goodwill, and love for oneself and others. While the loving-kindness meditation or LKM originates in Buddhist traditions, it’s now practiced widely across cultures and is the focus of extensive research by social scientists. Why is it good? LKM has the remarkable ability to improve well-being by… Read more!
Growing up, I believed that being good at something was solely a function of raw talent. I was also the queen of extremes. Here’s what that deadly combination looked like: My first time playing miniature golf, I went 50 over par. I would’ve been close to 100 over, but I threw my golf club across… Read more!
Remember Highlights children’s magazine—the one full of fun activities that would often be stacked at the doctor’s office? I always grabbed it and flipped to the back cover, which featured a busy, illustrated scene of children playing alongside objects and scenarios that weren’t quite logical. You might see an upside-down balloon in the sky or… Read more!
I’m such an idiot! I can’t believe I locked the keys in the car. What am I going to do now? How am I going to get home? I can’t even call my husband because my phone’s in the car and my purse!! I’m totally stuck. I have no idea what to do. I am… Read more!
Sixth grade history was a tough subject for me. Anytime Mr. Brown asked a question, I desperately averted my eyes or doodled in my notebook to look busy. Once in a while he called on me anyway. That triggered my anxiety: “What if I get the answer wrong?” “What if everyone laughs at me?” “What… Read more!
Kids have anxious thoughts all the time… “I’m going to fail math and never get into college.” “I’m totally screwing up this speech right now, and everyone knows it.” “What if I don’t get asked to the dance? I’ll be humiliated for life.” Research shows us that anxious thoughts are often blown out of proportion,… Read more!
If you have an anxious child, check out 5 phrases to avoid using with them and 5 alternatives. Related posts: 9 Things Every Parent with an Anxious Child Should Try 49 Phrases to Calm an Anxious Child Free Ebook: 72 Phrases to Calm an Anxious Child
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Sweaty palms, rapid heart rate, trouble concentrating… you know the feeling. You’re sitting in front of THE TEST. Everyone has experienced test anxiety at one time or another, but for some people it’s a regular occurrence that often can hinder performance, even if you thoroughly know the content. Next time you or your child is faced with… Read more!